Going back to school could create some anxiety and stress. But “back to school” is not supposed to be “back to stress.” Let’s recognize the difference between short-term and long-term stress. One could be beneficial, and another can affect a child’s health. One example of short-term stress is the stress about upcoming tests. He stays at home to study, skipping going out with friends. Short-term stress could boost focus and productivity. On the other hand, the long term could cause various health issues. As parents or caregivers, we need to learn how to recognize stress and learn the right tools to help a child manage it.
Stress can be expressed as:
Visible changes in behavior.
Trouble falling asleep.
Weakened immune system.
Ignoring favorite activities.
Changes in eating habits.
Several activities help with stress reduction in school-age kids:
Spend more time in nature
Coloring or working on the puzzles
Watching a comedy
Spend time with friends
Listen to music or singing
Do physical activities or dancing
Painting or just doodling
Have enough rest and sleep
Write in a journal
Have a daily routine
The biggest challenge for parents or caregivers is not trying to solve child's problems but helping them learn coping and stress management skills. Allow your kids to solve their low-stakes problems. It builds their self-esteem and confidence and increases resistance to stress and setbacks. Good parenting is not trying to make your child's life stress-free but ensuring that they are not alone and that we are always here for them.
Communication is a big part of this process. Always try to be an active listener and use supportive language (“I am here for you,” “How I can help” …). Try to ask a child open-ended questions. It shows your interest in their life and feelings, and simultaneously, you model how to ask a good question.
My 16 favorite questions.
1. What do you look forward to when you wake up?
2. If you could achieve anything, any goal, what would it be?
3. What organization would you choose if you could give $100 to a good cause?
4. What character would you like to play if you create a movie?
5. What qualities do you look for in friends?
6. What do you think are the most important qualities of a great parent?
7. What memory always makes you happy?
8. What was the best thing that happened to you today?
9. What was the worst thing that happened to you today?
10. What was your favorite thing that you learned today?
11. What was the funniest thing that happened today?
12. What was the hardest thing you faced today? What was the easiest?
13. What was the brave or kind thing you had the opportunity to do today?
14. Do you have any questions about anything that happened today?
15. What are you most grateful for today?
16. What are your plans for tomorrow?
As parents, we want the best for the child. This is why we need to know how to recognize stress and what strategies can help. Fortunately, a lot of good information is now available online to educate ourselves. But all this great information is general information, but no one knows your child better than you. You choose what strategy or approach would work better for your child, and if you need local professionals, they are always ready to help.
Disclosure: The information on this page is not intended to be a substitution for diagnosis, treatment, or informed professional advice. Always consult with a qualified health professional.
With love,
Roman
September 1, 2024
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